one of my closest friends lost her sister, soul mate & dearest friend last week. I've held off on posting about the subject because I am not sure what or how to express my feelings (writing about silly things is so much easier!) However, I don't want to ever forget the emotions and experiences my friends have shared over the past 12 days (or 2 months)
My friend Becky had been trying to get out to NYC to visit her sister for the last 6 months or so. On a whim, she and our other friend Suzanne flew out at the end of April. The first day she was there her sister starting feeling sick. When it didn't get better, they sent her off to the hospital to get it checked out. Becky got a call from her in the middle of the night saying, "come quick, I have cancer." Thus it began. There are many details from then until now, but it in the end, 32 days later, it took her life. 2 years her senior, she was Becky's closest friend. Every story Becky ever shared about her life or childhood had Jen by her side. As sad as this entire story is, I will NEVER get over the fact that Becky just HAPPENED to be in New York, at her sister's side during her darkest hour. That is tender mercy.
We, her friends back home were crushed. I have never been so emotional about anything in my life. Our hearts were aching, and our stomach's sick for our friend that had just lost so much. A few of us ended up flying to Fresno to be with her for the funeral. It felt so good to see her, to hug her and to cry with her. I never knew how deep love could run for a person that was not a spouse or a blood relative. But then again, Becky is no ordinary friend - she is the R of RMB, she is the reason Liza was born in a hospital and not on my kitchen floor, the reason I gain 5 pounds every birthday and Sassy Mei show, the person who talks with me on the phone 5 times a day about nothing and everything, the reason I LOVE Ragnar, my movie buddie, the mother to my son's "other half", and so much more...everyone deserves to have a friendship like this in their lifetime. She has taught me how to love and serve unconditionally, to sum it up "because I knew her, my life's been changed for good." (yes, she introduced me to Wicked too...)
some pictures from the weekend:
The church where the service was held
I had to snap this shot. My dear friend was on her feet greeting people the entire viewing and funeral. She is just that kind of person, never taking thought for herself.
some chocolate to make us feel better :) What self control that Tracie has - she bought that Milky Way and slowly ate it over the course of 2 days!
My friend Becky had been trying to get out to NYC to visit her sister for the last 6 months or so. On a whim, she and our other friend Suzanne flew out at the end of April. The first day she was there her sister starting feeling sick. When it didn't get better, they sent her off to the hospital to get it checked out. Becky got a call from her in the middle of the night saying, "come quick, I have cancer." Thus it began. There are many details from then until now, but it in the end, 32 days later, it took her life. 2 years her senior, she was Becky's closest friend. Every story Becky ever shared about her life or childhood had Jen by her side. As sad as this entire story is, I will NEVER get over the fact that Becky just HAPPENED to be in New York, at her sister's side during her darkest hour. That is tender mercy.
We, her friends back home were crushed. I have never been so emotional about anything in my life. Our hearts were aching, and our stomach's sick for our friend that had just lost so much. A few of us ended up flying to Fresno to be with her for the funeral. It felt so good to see her, to hug her and to cry with her. I never knew how deep love could run for a person that was not a spouse or a blood relative. But then again, Becky is no ordinary friend - she is the R of RMB, she is the reason Liza was born in a hospital and not on my kitchen floor, the reason I gain 5 pounds every birthday and Sassy Mei show, the person who talks with me on the phone 5 times a day about nothing and everything, the reason I LOVE Ragnar, my movie buddie, the mother to my son's "other half", and so much more...everyone deserves to have a friendship like this in their lifetime. She has taught me how to love and serve unconditionally, to sum it up "because I knew her, my life's been changed for good." (yes, she introduced me to Wicked too...)
some pictures from the weekend:
The church where the service was held
I had to snap this shot. My dear friend was on her feet greeting people the entire viewing and funeral. She is just that kind of person, never taking thought for herself. some chocolate to make us feel better :) What self control that Tracie has - she bought that Milky Way and slowly ate it over the course of 2 days!
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